Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign.
It's Lacey and I'm Lauren and welcome to another episode of the Llamas podcast.
[00:00:11] Speaker B: So I don't know how many of you know us from our past or our actual friends or just random people from the Internet who enjoy us, but we graduated high school in 2006, which
[00:00:25] Speaker A: means been 20 years.
[00:00:29] Speaker B: So this week we are supposed to have. So I don't know, I think there's a lot of drama in our high school, or not drama, just the fact that it's a lot to organize a reunion and everything. So this year right now, we are having like a mini reunion type thing at our homecoming football game for Union High this Friday.
[00:00:55] Speaker A: And I, I feel like it. We're okay to open up about this because the person is open about it. So technically the class president is supposed to plan the reunions.
And so our class president is very open on social media about her past. But when we had our 10 year reunion, from my understanding that is when she was deep into her addiction. So I think that's what caused some of the drama, is because she was not in a good place to plan.
Went to, to other people.
And whenever someone said like, you know, that doesn't work for me, there was just, I don't know, it was just, it was dramatic for the 10 year.
A lot of people, me and Lauren decided not to go because it just didn't feel very welcoming and it was just too dramatic. We did go to the game. I think they might have something.
[00:01:51] Speaker B: I didn't go. So realistically, the day of the actual reunion, I had tickets to be on the sideline at Carolina and we were playing Texas A and M and I already had that commitment. So, like, we didn't go.
And I will say a lot of this fell onto someone who I don't even think was a. There's a guy named Chris who was in our class who was one of the nicest people out there.
[00:02:15] Speaker A: So sweet. We love you, Chris.
[00:02:18] Speaker B: And a lot of this fell on him. And then coming up to 20, I feel like he's busy personally.
So I don't know, I think a lot of it once again fell on him. I think he really tried to put some effort out there because he would put posts in our Facebook group like, what do y' all want to do? When do you want to do it? And you know, a lot of people didn't respond.
[00:02:39] Speaker A: So I actually feel.
And tell me how if you feel different, if. So Monica is sober. She has been sober for a few years now. She's doing really well, like I said, I'm only talking about this because she's open about it on her page. I honestly feel if she had stepped in and planned this, it would have been received by a lot more people. And I think a lot more people would. And nothing against Chris, I don't think that's. But I think a lot of people just really relate to Monica, even if not themselves. They've been through the, you know, the hardships of recovering from drugs. But I just think Monica had a lot of connections with different people.
Chris hung out with a lot of band people. I know, but I just feel like Monica was in more circles and I feel if she.
And she's got five kids, she works full time and she's really big in recovery and like helping others. So maybe she doesn't have the time. So I'm not hating on her for not being available at all.
It would be hard for me to do it and I only have two kids. But I. I do feel if she were able to have planned it and had planned something, I feel like more people would be attending and going.
Do you feel that way?
[00:03:55] Speaker B: I don't know. I feel like if y' all actually watch this, my hair gets on my nerves. And I did not wash. I washed it last night, but I didn't dry it and it looks a mess. And I keep messing with it because I don't do it when I'm meeting with clients because I don't see myself. But I currently am seeing myself and it's driving me crazy. So if you watch this, I apologize for my terrible hair.
I don't know. I think Chris was really popular and in a lot of groups. And Chris is African American, so I think he reaches a group that maybe Monica never did as much. I just think, honestly, high school reunions are hard to plan. And I feel like our class is just difficult.
[00:04:36] Speaker A: I also hate that we do it in the fall. That's not 20 years. Our 20 years was in May and my mother in law just went to her.
I don't know what year. Love you, Susan.
But. And a reunion. And it was much earlier this year because they did it in like May to go alongside of the actual date they graduated. And I just feel if we did it sometime in May, that more people would be able to come to at least a dinner or do something like that.
Everybody's back to school. There's so many sports. A lot of us have kids in activities and groups. And I just think it's very difficult. And I get. I think it Used to be planned for homecoming and around a football game because we used to be freaking good at football and now we're not. So like, I just don't get why our reunion has to resolve, like revolve around football. Like we could have like a nice dinner. Like they rented out like the golf course or something and had like a really nice sit down dinner and wore like cute dresses at Susan's and I just would prefer that over going to the homecoming football game and union, to be honest.
[00:05:54] Speaker B: Parents, they've went to theirs a lot of years.
And my parents were in two different circles in high school. My dad was a jock, he ran track. My mom was more like me and she wasn't in the band, but she was dorky and she worked a lot. So I will say my parents though how their generation kind of handled it is just a group of people just got together, did it, sent out invitations, and those who could come, come, and those who couldn't, couldn't. And I feel like maybe that's where our generation thinks we all have to give input instead of just having a great, like putting it out.
It's hard because put it on Facebook. What do y' all want to do? Well, my parents end up usually doing theirs. I think their last one was at Main street junction in Union. That's the new event center.
[00:06:38] Speaker A: What time of year do they do it?
[00:06:41] Speaker B: I honestly don't know. I don't. They just go whenever they can get the like, event they want and like a group of people plan it. And I think it's like kind of like the president, maybe some different people.
One of them is our friend from college in high school.
Fisher is his mom is one of the planners for it.
[00:07:05] Speaker A: Fisher, I text us.
[00:07:08] Speaker B: He doesn't respond to my text. So if you ever watch this, Matthew Fisher, we do still miss you. Me and Aaron and Lacy randomly will talk about, you know, your weird habits, but so they just do it and they just hit. My mom just gets an invitation in the mail. And sometimes I think that may be better because I think the people just do it. And who can come, comes, who doesn't. It's not a whole debate where like with us it becomes this big debate. And I think we have a lot of people with a lot of personalities in our class and we all begin to bicker with one another. And then the hard part is for me, I'm just terrible at staying in touch with people. It's nothing personal. I'm naturally an introvert.
I don't have to be around People to feel content with my life.
And that is not a slight to anybody. Like, I just am terrible at staying in touch with people. And I only stay in touch with a few people from high school, so I can never step in and plan anything because I don't know where anybody is. Yeah, one of my besties is in Texas who just got married. And I said, would you come to the reunion?
I ain't flying to Union for that was pretty much the response I got. And then I talked to Aaron and.
But what's where. Aaron was not my bestie in high school. We became besties after high school. Like, we just kind of bonded because she trauma bonded with me, I guess. And then there's Lacey. And that's about the only people I really. And it's not that I don't like people. I just am terrible at staying in touch with people because I just am not social.
[00:08:45] Speaker A: Yeah, it's definitely hard. I mean, I don't know who's going. There are people I would love, like, Candy. I would love to see Candy.
[00:08:53] Speaker B: I do still talk to Candy, but it is about our mutual addiction to Disney.
[00:08:58] Speaker A: But I would love to see, like. And that's why I would prefer, like, renting out, like, a. A restaurant and a dinner, because I'm not gonna be able to, like, go around a room and talk to people that I like. I would love to catch up with Candy. I don't know if Rachel would come, but, like, if she did, I would love to see Rachel.
I would love to see Monica. And just. I think her story is very inspiring, and I'm just so proud of all the work she's done and sharing it.
But, yeah, there's just. There are people I would like to see, and it's just hard to, like, talk to people at the football game. And there's also people. Some people in our class, they're not going to come to the football game.
[00:09:40] Speaker B: Well, I also feel like this was all done really last minute. So, like, for those of us who are not local, like Rashawn, who. He's gonna have to fly to come. Like, I think there's some people that are in different states, like, where it's not, you know, easy. I think a lot of us live in South Carolina still. Yeah. And are still relatively close, but there's a lot who aren't. And I feel like they just can't make it. And especially a lot of people work weird shifts. I think it would have been a lot better if it been months in advance, but it is what it is. And I will say I did send out a text to Michelle and Candy and Rachel.
[00:10:24] Speaker A: I would love to see both of them going.
[00:10:27] Speaker B: Candy is going on a Disney cruise, so she won't be there.
Wish I was, you know, going to Disney, too.
I believe Michelle plans on going. Myra will be working it because she is a teacher at the high school and she has duty or something. And then Rachel isn't going because her daughter has something that night. Okay, so that was kind of. Those are the only people. I really even have numbers for her and I'm terrible.
[00:10:56] Speaker A: We'll be honest and. Well, you talk to more people than I do because I've asked no one but you.
I guess I could ask Sarah, but I highly doubt she's going to drive up to Charleston from Myrtle Beach.
She's in Myrtle beach now. Always forget that Lauren said, why do you want to go, Y'? All, I was so ugly in high school.
I was so ugly. I am much prettier now.
And I want people to say I'm pretty.
[00:11:29] Speaker B: I mean, I mean, I'm not saying
[00:11:31] Speaker A: I'm drop dead gorgeous beautiful, but I look way better than I did back then.
[00:11:36] Speaker B: I think people always thought I was smart in high school. I've never, like, felt that people didn't. But for me, if I was, you know, it's nice to see that, like, I'm successful. Like, I run. I am an introvert. I don't. Like, I'm a people pleaser, but I don't like people. I've never been overly social.
I've never given into peer pressure either because I just don't care.
Which is some really nice things about being an introvert. You don't have fomo? I truly do not have fomo. But I will say I think a lot of people did not think I could handle the life I have now. And so it would be nice to be like, hey, I don't have acne braces anymore. I'm not super overweight. I'm a little chunky.
But I'm honestly probably in the best physical fit I've ever been in because I can lift really heavy now.
So there is that.
And then I'm pretty successful, like, and I guess I don't think people didn't think I would be successful, but I don't think people could think I could do what I do.
[00:12:38] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah, I can see that.
But, yeah, I don't know.
I. Like I said, I. I wish it was something different. I know they said they're going to plan something later. On. I don't think that's gonna happen. I think people are going to move on with their lives and forget about it. But I honestly do kind of want to reach out for a 30th and. Or maybe even our 25th since we've had two failures to Monica and just like, hey, you are a class president. You were voted in. How would you feel about, you know, planning it? And I bet there's a lot of people from the class, probably some of your friends. I bet Katie Beth would help her plan it if it was like a dinner or something, you know, help. I bet. I mean, she's still talks to a good bit of people from Union, so I bet a lot of people would chip in and help. And she's married to someone in her class lift, so I. I think she would be great to plan like, a dinner or something.
Maybe with help she could make it possible. But I don't know, maybe wishful thinking. I just wish we could get together and just.
I don't, like, have conversations, see where everybody's at in life you see on Facebook, but that's just a glimpse of. Of how people actually are. So.
[00:13:48] Speaker B: And I feel like I'm one on. I post a lot on Facebook because I have very cute children and dogs, so I have no shame in posting about them. I'm not one of those moms. It's like, I'm not gonna put my kid on the Internet. Perverts can find your kids anywhere. So, like, I'm not like one of those people.
But there are a lot of our friends who are not as active on social media. And so I don't always get to see what their kids or their dogs or cats look like. And I would like to. And there's people that I forget exist. And I know that sounds really awful, but I just forget they exist, and it would be nice to be reminded they exist.
[00:14:26] Speaker A: I was in one of the prisons near Union, and a girl came up and goes, lacy, you're my classmate. And I recognized her, but I couldn't remember her name.
And so I'd love to, like, if she was there, like, what is your name again? I remembered you being in my class, but just could not. I should get a yearbook out. But, yeah, she was one of the prison guards at the prison I was visiting. And so it was. Honestly, it's kind of just cool just to run into her there. Maybe some people think that's weird, but I thought it was pretty cool.
[00:14:54] Speaker B: But, yes, know where you're going to see. But, like, I was at the DMV and one of our classmates, she's like, I know you. And I was like, I know you too. And we realized we were high school classmates and she was working at the DMV. And my DMV experience went 10 times better because she knew me. And the woman that was, she wasn't my person. There was somebody else beside her, but because she knew me, my person was nicer to me. So there is all different types of times and I'm not one. I didn't hate high school. I mean I enjoyed it. Like I may have been dorky and in the band, but same.
I didn't hate it. Like I'm not one of these people that's like, oh my God. High school was horrible. I have enjoyed all the different phases of my life and respected them as such. So I mean, I don't. I didn't hate high school.
[00:15:41] Speaker A: I had a blast. I was dorky too. I was friends with some of the pop, I wouldn't say friends with the popular kids.
I, I knew them and I could have conversation with like stuff like that. I wouldn't tell them my deepest darkest secrets. Like it wasn't like that level of friendship, but surface level, I guess I would say.
But I was in band, I was in theater, I was in a lot of clubs.
But I, I mean when I look back at high school, I have such good memories. Like fan competitions are so much fun. Cheering for the. I cheered for two years. That was a blast. I loved theater. Like looking back at the shows I did were so much fun.
I, I'm just like you, Lauren. Like every phase of life I have just thoroughly enjoyed for what it is. I take the lessons that I, you know, have during those chapters and move forward. But I always reflect, you know, positively from our high school experience. And honestly I can't think of much.
The only thing I would say I would change going back to high school is I was so adamant on graduating top four in the class. I don't. It was just, it was my own self esteem issues. I wish I had did what you did, Lauren, and taken more college courses instead of just honors classes to get the GPA because it would have saved me money in college later on. 1 But I give myself grace because I had just a lot of self esteem issues and just growing up, you know, we were not financially well off and I did grow up kind of rough and so I just thought that was something that if I did it would make something of myself not thinking in advance. So that is the only thing I would change going back to high school. So what do you reflect positively on and can you think of anything you change?
[00:17:38] Speaker B: I mean, like, I will say I don't feel like we had a ton of bullying at school. Like, you see, like, I never felt, because I was in the band, people were rude to me. Like, I guess I didn't feel that I. I never really felt like I wasn't popular. But I did know all the popular people I went to element, like a lot of our popular people were people I went to elementary school with. I never felt like they were rude to me.
One of my own best friends was probably one of the rud because I wore a yellow shirt and I was fat. So he ran around me and said I was the son.
Ran. He did do that, didn't he? Yeah, he did. And so realistically I told this story at his wedding and his mother in law died laughing. And I was like, does he act like this around y'?
[00:18:20] Speaker A: All?
[00:18:20] Speaker B: Because this is him.
I don't really think, like I enjoyed it. I feel like I enjoyed all the different pieces of it.
Maybe I wish I'd been a little bit more assertive because I remember I was in biology, two honors and these two girls who weren't in our class and I mean, they're nice to me. It's not that, but they're like, I bet you can't go to USC because I don't think you can handle it.
And I wish I could have said, huh, Two people that were a year older than us.
[00:18:57] Speaker A: I'll call it mine. I was picked on.
I. But he's a fellow attorney and I don't think he would do it now. I think he would probably be mortified. I remember this, but Michael Gault used to pick on me and, and just with me always. Not like I didn't always have like the up to date phone and the stuff like that and ringtones because of money. And so he would make comments. I remember Hillary Glenn, she. I remember her getting picked on and bullied and I want to say could have been more assertive to stick up for people.
[00:19:33] Speaker B: There are a few mean people. Like, I know what happened to Caroline.
I don't know what her married name is now, but I know like there were people that went through it rough, but overall I don't feel like that was our high school all together. I remember there was a guy we went to high school with, he was popular. He would carry my saxophone case for me, like, and it, it never was a thing. And there Was.
I don't know. Maybe I should have been more assertive when I'd had a crush on somebody or something. I didn't date anybody really in high school much.
I guess Lake Fisher was madly in love with me, so maybe we went on a few dates. I don't really know if they were dates or just him trying to get with my mother.
[00:20:17] Speaker A: I was madly in love with Kevin Coffles my entire grade school.
Thank God for unanswered prayers because I don't think he get like. I think he just sticks to union and doesn't get out much. And I'm very outgoing, so we would have never been compatible at all.
But that was my. My crush. And I can publicly say it. I don't care.
[00:20:44] Speaker B: My crush wasn't in our grade ever. So, like, I guess for me, is
[00:20:48] Speaker A: it who I'm thinking of? Couple years older than us, three years
[00:20:51] Speaker B: older than us and in the band with us.
[00:20:53] Speaker A: I know who you're talking about.
[00:20:54] Speaker B: And I will say years later, he quasi asked me out.
[00:20:58] Speaker A: So look at there. Mine turned me down.
[00:21:02] Speaker B: But I mean, I would like to see some of the people. And I will say, though I probably shouldn't say this because this isn't the nicest thing to say, but some of the people in our high school class, they get addicted to drugs and they look bad now. And it's really sad because these people were so cute.
[00:21:17] Speaker A: They were. And we're not going to say their names because those things are not public on Facebook.
[00:21:22] Speaker B: But there are some people, and I'm proud of some of them because I know some of them have gotten sober, have turned their lives around and are doing great, and I'm proud of you. But me and Aaron were exchanging texts and she was like. I said, are you gonna go? She goes, well, Daniel said he'd watch the kids, so I can. If you want to do that's.
[00:21:38] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:21:39] Speaker B: And I said.
I said, well, Aaron, I said, lacey wants to go. And she goes, I know why she wants to go. She knew from the get go why you wanted to go.
[00:21:47] Speaker A: Oh, because I feel prettier now.
[00:21:49] Speaker B: Yes. And I said, knowing me, I said, I. Aaron, I said, I think the three of us do look, you know, pretty good. She goes, well, that's what not doing drugs does for you. Yeah, it's. It's sad. That's what I told Lacey. I said, some of it is bad because some of these people that were just. And then some of us, I mean, some people have just age normally naturally, not drugs, and they're just not as cute anymore. But that just happens because different people peak at different times in their life.
[00:22:19] Speaker A: And I weigh more now. It's just I look better overall.
[00:22:23] Speaker B: I weigh a lot less now.
Like, let's see, I am probably £50 less.
[00:22:33] Speaker A: I am £50 more.
[00:22:36] Speaker B: I was really.
[00:22:38] Speaker A: I would not look right.
[00:22:40] Speaker B: You were very thin, though. Yeah, I would look where I was. Chunky. But I will say, like, I'm going to go probably.
[00:22:51] Speaker A: I'm going if you're going.
[00:22:53] Speaker B: Well, me and Aaron be a hard day for me.
[00:22:55] Speaker A: But I. I did order a shirt. It was not too bad.
[00:23:00] Speaker B: And I'm gonna go. I will say it's gonna be a little sad because my BFF Ran will not
[00:23:08] Speaker A: be able.
[00:23:11] Speaker B: Hold on just a second.
[00:23:12] Speaker A: Yeah, I can feel in Rashawn's not gonna be able to go. So that sucks. But okay, so. So right now we're going. Unless. So it's gonna be a hard day for me. That is the day I'm putting my dog down. And I will be unwell. But I don't have anything else the rest of the weekend. And it'll probably be good to get out of the house because I think if I don't, I'm just gonna sit at home and cry all day because I party today anyway. Cutting it off.
But I've already talked to my husband and my mom for the kids because I don't want to bring them. I just.
I just.
[00:23:44] Speaker B: I'm not bringing my kids.
[00:23:45] Speaker A: Not going to be able to. No.
[00:23:47] Speaker B: I don't want to deal with them. That's mean. I know. But I need a night for me.
[00:23:51] Speaker A: Yeah. So right now we're going. Do y' all want to meet up for dinner before?
[00:23:56] Speaker B: Well, I had sent out when you said you didn't know if you were going, that's when I sent out the group text. So Michelle said she could probably do dinner before.
[00:24:02] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:24:03] Speaker B: Myra depends on time. So I guess let's just see what Friday holds. I mean, will you add me to
[00:24:08] Speaker A: the group and then reach out?
[00:24:10] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:24:10] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:24:11] Speaker B: Yes. And we can do this. And we'll give you all an update after we go. Who comes, who doesn't. And I will say, this is a weird age because there are a lot of people that have kids in high school and we have little kids, so kindergarteners. We were at Orange Theory the other day, and I looked over and there was a bunch of girls from Walford there. And I said, wes, you know, in theory, you are old enough to be their dad. And he was like, Stop. He was like, I have a four. She's almost five, but I have a four year old. But then we were thinking, like, Wes's high school reunion was two years ago, but he didn't go because he had to work. And there was only 18 of them. And he still keeps in touch with who he wants to, but he had to work, so he didn't want to take off work for it. But it was kind of crazy because it was like, one of his friends has, like, now a son that's in college, and one of his other good friends just had twin babies. So we are at such an awkward age. I feel like, to see all the different ages because some of our classmates, like, one of them, I know her daughter just went to Carolina and is a freshman at Carolina, where I have one that is still in 4K.
[00:25:21] Speaker A: So I had. My oldest niece was with me this weekend. She's about to be 19. And I joked with her, I said, addison, do you know what? She's like? What? I said, in a year or two, like, we could get pregnant together and it wouldn't be weird for either of our ages. And she's like, oh, my God, Mim would kill us. I can't do that. She goes, actually, I think she'd kill you before me because she's done babysitting.
But it does show, like, how weird of an age we truly. We truly are.
[00:25:51] Speaker B: And I will be honest, I don't feel old with my kids because my kids go to private school. And, like, this is going to sound elitist and snooty, but most of the people that go to private school have older kids because we all had to have careers before we could send them to private school to afford it.
And so I'm one of the regular age moms. And it really makes me feel great. But I know going to our high school reunion is when it's going to put in perspective I was an old mom.
[00:26:19] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:26:20] Speaker B: Like, because we do have classmates. And it wasn't that they were having teen pregnancies. They were getting pregnant at normal ages. It's just, I was old.
[00:26:28] Speaker A: I mean, my. My niece, her mom had her at 17. I could have had her at 19. I was like, I could be your mother. And she's like, that's weird. I said, your mom is literally younger than me.
I would have been always 20 if I had had her.
But yes. So, okay, well, I'm excited. Friday's gonna be rough. Are people bringing spouses or just us girls? Can you let me know?
[00:26:53] Speaker B: Some people me and Aaron, our husbands are watching our kids, so Wes is watching the girls, and Daniel's watching. Aaron has the boy and the girl twins. He is watching them. So for me, Michelle's married to somebody
[00:27:08] Speaker A: in our class, so he would probably.
[00:27:11] Speaker B: He. From what I said about Michelle, he will come for the football game. But she said we could.
We can all have dinner beforehand, though.
[00:27:22] Speaker A: Okay, well, let me know. I'm excited. I. I'll reach out to Sarah. I doubt she'll come up, but I'll. I'll reach out and ask her. I haven't asked anybody except you. Because you were closer. That's why. What made me think of it so. All right. Well, we will update y' all after Friday.
[00:27:39] Speaker B: All right. Have a good week.
[00:27:41] Speaker A: Bye.
